If worth is not self originating, then we’re trying to earn it from an external source and thus make ourselves subject to that external source’s value system. It becomes the external metric against which we constantly assess our worth. “Do I measure up yet?”
As we look to see if we measure up yet, we are forever reminded of any perceived inadequacy relative to the adopted value system, and how we must strive to do more and be better to acquire worth from the bestowing source. Is the bestowing source a parent, a teacher, the church, a doctor, a friend, a boss, a sibling, social media, academia, a spouse, community member, expert, stranger, or even society at large? We can, and often do, place our worth in the hands of anyone or anything we believe knows better.
It can seem normal and even easier to seek and earn worth from an external source, especially when it’s been implied all our lives that we ourselves are not to be trusted. Most people trust themselves very little, if at all. So, how would we know if we’re making the right choices and doing the right things without our trusted external source to tell us so?
Yet, we can reclaim our intrinsic self worth at any time. We can begin to trust ourselves again, and reorient to an internal value system that may be vastly different from the one we adopted from our environment in order to stay safe, fit in and feel loved.
I have the privilege of facilitating clients along the path of self discovery in service to their unique journey of reclamation of self, of sovereignty and feeling at home within themselves no matter what adversity may be occurring in their lives and in the world.
The power of resilience has always resided within you even if you’ve not yet recognized it. Would you like support with your self discovery?