Is our obsession with control perpetuating a victim consciousness?
We equate control with power. But, is control powerful or does it simply appear powerful from the point of view of those who believe themselves to be oppressed by it?
Control as a power strategy has been modeled to us throughout history. More intimately, we learn firsthand about control as children when those around us use control to mold us into their version of worthy appropriateness. Control as power is used against us in the form of discipline and obedience training, to get us in line, to curb anything perceived as unacceptable behavior, to stop us from expressing in any way that others feel uncomfortable in the presence of, or simply as a way of making us more palatable to society. And, control is often justified in the name of caring.
So, do we become so familiar with control that it’s all we know and rely on? Or, is there perhaps another way of being powerful we are blind to?
What if the power afforded by control is restrictive by its very nature? What if the very effort to control is reactive, and by its reactive nature obstructs our true creative capacity of innovation? And if control is reactive rather than creative, can we create a different future with more of the same control as we’ve known it?
I learned control primarily from my father who needs to control everything in his life. There is a myriad of reasons that could be given for seeking to control. Yet, it seems the most common is so nothing uncomfortable will ever have to be felt. Whatever the reason may be, it seems the impulse to control only arises in reaction to a reason, any reason that feels strong enough to fight against. And, we only fight what we feel we are at the effect of, or being victimized by.
Control as a reactive strategy is triggered by feelings of powerlessness and helplessness in the face of what we believe has authoritative power over us. It triggers us to fight against, to attempt to gain the upper hand or “out control” what we believe we are being controlled by. Yet, if we trusted and had confidence in our own creative capacity, would we feel the need to fight against anything?
Control is the antithesis of freedom. What if we are always already free, and have bought into a belief that we have to fight all that controls us for our freedom?
Anger is a common reaction to feeling controlled or powerless. What if the anger and outrage we feel are not valid justification for fighting against what feels oppressive, but rather a signal that we are not claiming our freedom? What if our fight against is the very reaction that perpetuates feeling like a victim of what we believe has control, and therefore power, over us?
Once we buy into the legitimacy of the power of control, our mind would have us believe there are things everywhere outside us that must be resisted lest we fall prey to their control. The very belief in control as power becomes the shackles that bind us, and obstruct the knowledge of our own inherent freedom. So as long as we believe in control as power, we shall never feel free and eternally act as victim to those we believe have the control that we do not have. We will constantly engage in a struggle for control to acquire the power we ourselves place in the hands of those we believe control us. Life will appear to be an eternal battle for more and greater control in an effort to feel more powerful.
Just because we feel like we don’t know the exact right thing to do in every situation does not negate our creative capacity. In fact, it’s quite likely that because we believe there is a right thing to do in every situation, and we should know what that is, that we ourselves negate our innate creative capacity with our doubt. Rather than have confidence in trusting ourselves, we believe there must be a right answer if we could just figure it out, and thus we resort to dependence on control.
It is a paradox that we often control ourselves to feel more freedom. We attempt to control others, our environments, our emotions. We’ve come to hold control, and its partner discipline, as the pinnacle of achievement. It’s often the metric we use to measure success, and how we know who is winning. We believe in the rightness of its cultural value and rarely, if ever, question that belief.
As long as we perpetuate and maintain this love affair with control, can things every truly change? Or, will we simply reactive ourselves into a future of more of the same?
The urge to control is a powerful reactive force originating from a resistance to feeling victimized. If we knew and embodied our Self Sovereignty, could we feel victimized by anyone or anything? Can anyone or anything truly have control over us? Or must we relinquish our Self Sovereignty first to believe that?
Control believes in right answers while innovation is born from imagination. Innovation is the ignition of something new, a willingness to explore and allow something unprecedented to come into being. It requires the acknowledgment, allowance and trust in our creative capacity. It requires the willingness to make mistakes, fail and keep turning our attention toward an infinite abundance of unexplored possibilities.
If we stopped giving so much effort and value to control, might we come to value the power of freedom instead? Might we come to more easily recognize and honor our innate creative capacity of innovation?
What if now is the time to acknowledge and claim our inherent freedom? What if we’ve never not been free save for everywhere we have relinquished our freedom by striving for greater control?
What if now is the time to together embody an interrelated Self Sovereignty where everyone is valued for their unique creative Self Expression rather than measure their worth by how much they produce, accomplish and achieve to maintain the status quo?
Our future can easily look like more of the same. Or, it can be unrecognizable to anything we’ve ever known because we are willing to be something unrecognizable to ourselves. We can stop everywhere we play victim to control as if it has power over us. Or, we can claim the freedom of Self Sovereignty where our true innate power has always existed simply waiting for us to acknowledge it.
The commitment to embodying Self Sovereignty may not be the easy road you’ve been hoping to find. Yet, it just might be the most rewarding.
We equate control with power. But, is control powerful or does it simply appear powerful from the point of view of those who believe themselves to be oppressed by it?
Control as a power strategy has been modeled to us throughout history. More intimately, we learn firsthand about control as children when those around us use control to mold us into their version of worthy appropriateness. Control as power is used against us in the form of discipline and obedience training, to get us in line, to curb anything perceived as unacceptable behavior, to stop us from expressing in any way that others feel uncomfortable in the presence of, or simply as a way of making us more palatable to society. And, control is often justified in the name of caring.
So, do we become so familiar with control that it’s all we know and rely on? Or, is there perhaps another way of being powerful we are blind to?
What if the power afforded by control is restrictive by its very nature? What if the very effort to control is reactive, and by its reactive nature obstructs our true creative capacity of innovation? And if control is reactive rather than creative, can we create a different future with more of the same control as we’ve known it?
I learned control primarily from my father who needs to control everything in his life. There is a myriad of reasons that could be given for seeking to control. Yet, it seems the most common is so nothing uncomfortable will ever have to be felt. Whatever the reason may be, it seems the impulse to control only arises in reaction to a reason, any reason that feels strong enough to fight against. And, we only fight what we feel we are at the effect of, or being victimized by.
Control as a reactive strategy is triggered by feelings of powerlessness and helplessness in the face of what we believe has authoritative power over us. It triggers us to fight against, to attempt to gain the upper hand or “out control” what we believe we are being controlled by. Yet, if we trusted and had confidence in our own creative capacity, would we feel the need to fight against anything?
Control is the antithesis of freedom. What if we are always already free, and have bought into a belief that we have to fight all that controls us for our freedom?
Anger is a common reaction to feeling controlled or powerless. What if the anger and outrage we feel are not valid justification for fighting against what feels oppressive, but rather a signal that we are not claiming our freedom? What if our fight against is the very reaction that perpetuates feeling like a victim of what we believe has control, and therefore power, over us?
Once we buy into the legitimacy of the power of control, our mind would have us believe there are things everywhere outside us that must be resisted lest we fall prey to their control. The very belief in control as power becomes the shackles that bind us, and obstruct the knowledge of our own inherent freedom. So as long as we believe in control as power, we shall never feel free and eternally act as victim to those we believe have the control that we do not have. We will constantly engage in a struggle for control to acquire the power we ourselves place in the hands of those we believe control us. Life will appear to be an eternal battle for more and greater control in an effort to feel more powerful.
Just because we feel like we don’t know the exact right thing to do in every situation does not negate our creative capacity. In fact, it’s quite likely that because we believe there is a right thing to do in every situation, and we should know what that is, that we ourselves negate our innate creative capacity with our doubt. Rather than have confidence in trusting ourselves, we believe there must be a right answer if we could just figure it out, and thus we resort to dependence on control.
It is a paradox that we often control ourselves to feel more freedom. We attempt to control others, our environments, our emotions. We’ve come to hold control, and its partner discipline, as the pinnacle of achievement. It’s often the metric we use to measure success, and how we know who is winning. We believe in the rightness of its cultural value and rarely, if ever, question that belief.
As long as we perpetuate and maintain this love affair with control, can things every truly change? Or, will we simply reactive ourselves into a future of more of the same?
The urge to control is a powerful reactive force originating from a resistance to feeling victimized. If we knew and embodied our Self Sovereignty, could we feel victimized by anyone or anything? Can anyone or anything truly have control over us? Or must we relinquish our Self Sovereignty first to believe that?
Control believes in right answers while innovation is born from imagination. Innovation is the ignition of something new, a willingness to explore and allow something unprecedented to come into being. It requires the acknowledgment, allowance and trust in our creative capacity. It requires the willingness to make mistakes, fail and keep turning our attention toward an infinite abundance of unexplored possibilities.
If we stopped giving so much effort and value to control, might we come to value the power of freedom instead? Might we come to more easily recognize and honor our innate creative capacity of innovation?
What if now is the time to acknowledge and claim our inherent freedom? What if we’ve never not been free save for everywhere we have relinquished our freedom by striving for greater control?
What if now is the time to together embody an interrelated Self Sovereignty where everyone is valued for their unique creative Self Expression rather than measure their worth by how much they produce, accomplish and achieve to maintain the status quo?
Our future can easily look like more of the same. Or, it can be unrecognizable to anything we’ve ever known because we are willing to be something unrecognizable to ourselves. We can stop everywhere we play victim to control as if it has power over us. Or, we can claim the freedom of Self Sovereignty where our true innate power has always existed simply waiting for us to acknowledge it.
The commitment to embodying Self Sovereignty may not be the easy road you’ve been hoping to find. Yet, it just might be the most rewarding.
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