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But, it hurts so much when I give. ~ Tamara Younker

11/30/2016

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Did you decide giving was painful? I did.

I am incredibly excitable and naturally enthusiastic about things that make me feel alive that I enjoy, and I genuinely desire to share that joy with others. When that exuberance was not received by others---no matter the reason---I interpreted that to mean something about me. I must be wrong for giving too much. They way I give must be ineffective, inadequate. Or else, why would they refuse it?

Slowly, over time, I decided it was too painful to express, share and be naturally joyful because all too often I was met with not being received. And, that hurt. So, I shut the exuberant giving down. I closed myself off and kept it suppressed, which I have come to learn has been the source of great suffering in my life. I know now that what others won't receive is not about me. It never was.

Those who close themselves off from life believe they are protecting themselves from the wounding that comes from "out there." But, is that truly the source of our pain? Does it really come from "out there?"
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I remember being open and giving when I was younger, and with such ease. It matters not why I shut that down. It only matters that I can choose now to be open, and unleash my desire to give, share and be a beacon of possibility for ALL to see whether they receive it or not.
Today I'm showing up shining. And, grateful for it.
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I just want them to be happy! ~ Tamara Younker

11/29/2016

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Wanting more for others than they want for themselves, or projecting our choices for our life onto others as if that is what they should choose too, is a recipe for misery. Our simple joy in living is an offering to others that demonstrates there is a different possibility.

Some will choose joy too, and some will remain embedded in protecting that which causes their suffering. Allowance of their choice to suffer is a gift to both us and them. It doesn't dismiss them or the "reality" of their suffering. It actually honors their choice and in the space of that honoring, they have the freedom to choose something different whenever THEY are ready to do so.

How often does forcing your point of view of what others should choose work anyway, even when what you sincerely desire is for them to be happy? Then do you suffer too because their refusal of happiness doesn't make sense to you? Does it need to make sense to you? Is it really about you?
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I chose to protect that which caused me suffering too...until I didn't. And now, I am immeasurably grateful for my courage to be a pioneer of possibility beyond the consensus belief that suffering is inevitable and we have no choice but to endure it. Will you join me?
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    Tamara Younker, CCP is a BioEnergetic Wellness Practitioner and Facilitator of Self Discover in service to greater Self Awareness, Self Autonomy and Personal Sovereignty.

    ​She hosted Consciousness Unleashed radio show on the World Puja Network, The Playground of Possibilities radio show on Inspired Choices Network and Seducing Aliveness on BlogTalk Radio. She is co-author of the Amazon #1 best selling book, The Energy of Healing.   

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