Some will choose joy too, and some will remain embedded in protecting that which causes their suffering. Allowance of their choice to suffer is a gift to both us and them. It doesn't dismiss them or the "reality" of their suffering. It actually honors their choice and in the space of that honoring, they have the freedom to choose something different whenever THEY are ready to do so.
How often does forcing your point of view of what others should choose work anyway, even when what you sincerely desire is for them to be happy? Then do you suffer too because their refusal of happiness doesn't make sense to you? Does it need to make sense to you? Is it really about you?
I chose to protect that which caused me suffering too...until I didn't. And now, I am immeasurably grateful for my courage to be a pioneer of possibility beyond the consensus belief that suffering is inevitable and we have no choice but to endure it. Will you join me?